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Fat for a Day

This post is the fourth and last installment of my blog series, Where Pounds and Inches Hurt the Most . Follow these links to read the first ,  second , and third posts. Since I am petite, it has not been an uncommon experience for large size clients of mine to be skeptical about my capacity to empathize with the daily disdain and disapproval that they endure . So when the opportunity presented itself for me to experience life at more than double my normal weight, I leapt at the chance.  I had been an interviewee on Channel 3 News entitled “Fat and Forgotten” which documented the physical and emotional hardships of being a large sized citizen. Many of my patients and members of NAAFA (National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance) were featured. A seamstress from Hartford Stage Company was commissioned to make a realistically proportioned “fat suit” which was worn by reporter Barbara Pinto with clothing from Lane Bryant. Since she only went u
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